With the world being thrust into chaos with the pandemic, then the economic strife that everyone is going through, I wanted to share how I feel about this whole thing. Honestly, I don’t feel quite plussed as I would have expected. And one of the reasons for my sunny disposition is meditation.
What is meditation?
Meditation is the most straightforward and complex thing I have observed. I have been meditating for almost 14 years; starting as an insecure overachieving teen in Mumbai. It has served me well as I have now found my feet as a prolific cyber security expert who’s just an overachiever.
Why is meditation so hard?
Do you like just shutting your eyes? Dude, I’d go crazy if I did that. I’ve heard good things about it, but when I close my eyes, I get uncomfortable because there are just so many thoughts that come along. I do like to do Brazilian ju jujitsu, you know in a way it’s meditation in a way.
If you answered yes, then read along. Meditation’s biggest tragedy is communication. Imma try to explain it with an analogy:
Imagine yourself getting into an elevator. When you first get in, you observe the people around you. If you’re feeling particularly chippy, you nod and greet the people around you. But as you grow older and impatient, you are only friendly if you’re in a good mood; you may find that greeting and making eye contact with people is a little weird.
Then you kind of mentally go over the conversation and start cursing as you feel awkward, all of this being an internal monologue, of course. Then panic arrives. Oh man, ugh, this is a bit cramped, innit? I wish my internet was still working; so lame that I can’t be distracted when shoved into a rectangular receptacle that plays hoop with gravity.
“Now, imagine if the elevator ride is 28 minutes long. Why 28 minutes? Well, I’m bragging as it is average time I usually like to meditate. Do you even Zen Brah? No self-help literature is devoid of an attempt by the author to make you feel inadequate. So I hope, my essay is still in vogue.”
Eventually, you’ll get over the claustrophobia, the regrettable things you did in life, and kind of make sense of the theme of your life. Then slowly, these forced introspective sessions turn into insight, and you experience self-awareness.
That self-awareness would eventually be complimented with what I consider to be the biggest gift of them all; An ability to be comfortable with silence.
You notice that you now prefer to turn inwards when you feel you are at a crossroads of any decision you need to take. For, e.g., Should I marry this person, Should I take this job, or should I add butter to my sandwich because I’m anti-hunger but also vegan at the same time? Decisions… decisions.
Surprisingly, now you actually kind of like yourself, or as the hip people say, “You are enough” I read it on someone’s water bottle. Profound stuff, I tells ya.
And then, my friends, for possibly the first time, you will understand what meditation is, and if you are really lucky, you may even experience love, in its most unadulterated and unconditional form.
Are you listening, paying attention?
Now, let’s say these 28-minute elevator rides have been going on for over 14 years. You start to pay it forward and love people without inhibition.
Meditation is Paradox?
Hey, what now? You just regaled me about meditation only to call it a paradox and your other $10 words?
Meditation is a tragic phenomenon as I see it, because the more you try to understand it, the weaker your grasp on it. The more you talk or learn about it, the longer it takes to experience it. Because meditation is not something that you can do, it happens to you, and at the same time it is our default setting.
Meditation is not something that you can achieve through knowledge; meditation, simply put, is the suspension of everything you know and everything you think you should do. It is, in its noblest forms absence of any kind of effort. There must not be any effort. When you try to understand anything, you need effort.
Words are the vehicles of your thoughts. Dropping the words and thoughts would let you experience meditation. The other paradox is that meditation will only happen when you drop any self-proclaimed “knowledge” you may have on the subject.
I’m sorry if I sound like I’m proselyting to you and that I’m going to use the “S” word, erm surrender. You would have to surrender absolutely without any hesitation.
You may ask, Dhanesh o wise one with the flowing beard and striking features, who should I surrender to?
In the interest of not being canceled on my first blog after 8 years, I’d say it’s up to you.
That’s all well and good, but do you expect me to waltz around life like a monk with blue balls and negative social skills?
No, far from it. Meditation in its most pure form can liberate you. Meditation is not paralysis. So don’t conflate becoming inert and sterile with wisdom. Creativity is a panacea to misery and also a pathway to go inwards.
Indulge in your beliefs, religion, and philosophies. Still, one thing is certain you’d only meet your God of choice if you achieve meditation while you are alive.
There is something intrinsically positive and affirming about my experience with meditation that made me write this essay.
-Love
Dhanesh
P.S: I would never ask you to subscribe or whatever I’m supposed to say to steal your attention to placate my creative hunger for support. Almost everything around you is in the business of monetizing your attention. But I would ask you to give meditation a chance.